Neither of these is healthy, only the easier route in the short term.If you close a dam completely, the backed up water is going to destroy everything in its path, eventually breaking the wall down completely.Adjusting Our Timeline I know we’ve all heard this before but, when God created humans, He said very clearly, “It is not good that man should be alone” (). The point is, perhaps we are trying to make our kids suppress what God clearly designed for them to feel.

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God, seeing Adam needed someone, did not say, “Adam? God began to bring everything under the sun to Adam to see his reaction.

He brought him all the animals and watched Adam interact with them.

God did not reprimand Adam for wanting a mate or ignore his need and hope it went away. We don’t actually know what this looked like; we don’t know if He and Adam had long conversations about this or if He had just observed Adam’s clear need for a mate from a distance.

I would imagine, though, it was more of the first because God was said to have walked with Adam in the garden. Surely Adam, in his perfection, was better than us at talking with God about things on his mind.

Other times, we tell them God wants them to avoid this feeling and focus on Him alone. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. Adam was in perfect fellowship with God, yet he still needed someone.

The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field” (). God created him that way and “saw that it was good”!

God’s Word hasn’t changed during more than 2,000 years it has been around. The cultures, parenting strategies and terms have changed in sometimes cyclical patterns, but the teens themselves have not. God made it clear that in marriage, “a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” ().

As we seek to discover the best way to navigate the river of love, our teens inevitably face, let’s stick to God’s wisdom. Because in their culture, girls often married at a young age, even as young as 12. In all the paintings, we see middle-aged men with beards walking around with Jesus. John was probably 16 when he started walking with Jesus, which would have made him 19 when Jesus went to the cross. I am bringing this up because if we are not careful, we will project on our children an age for sexual feelings that God did not intend. Our dream is to have our graduated college student begin the big dating phase or at least until after high school; but, think about it—a man leaving his father and mother to hold fast to his wife implies he is still young.

Our parents told us not to run around the pool because the concrete is slippery. Our coach told us not to worry about the person running next to us. Almost none of them get to either place successfully.

When it comes to the area of dating, responding to our kids hasn’t changed.

In the sexually charged climate of this society, they are given all the more reason to try and prove us wrong.