I wish I didn’t have to say it, but I get so many emails from people asking me how to enjoy something they don’t enjoy!

It may be a conundrum for you too, but here’s the truth.

(He wants to make gobs of money in a manner that I think shows the standard amorality that most incredibly successful businessdudes have to have, which doesn't jive with my worldview.)Offhandedly, I mentioned to a female friend that I'd turned down this guy's second-date request, and she expressed some frustration over the fact that she doesn't get asked on second dates as often as she'd like to. On first dates, plenty of us do little things that are (a novel with a slow-cooking romance at its heart) and an astute observer of the human race — to tell me about little things women do on first dates that might turn men off. Because sometimes you'll find yourself discussing a new restaurant that's supposed to be really cool, and you'll say something like, "We should go sometime." Or you'll mention one of your favorite books and, because you're a generous person, you'll say, "I can lend you my copy." Problem is, by doing this kind of thing, you force a guy to ask himself whether or not he wants to see again before he's even gotten a chance to know you — which can make him feel awkward. Don't mock the behavior — or outfit — of another woman in the restaurant.

Be regal and rise above all forms of cattiness and smallness. Don't mention anything that could make you come off as emotionally unstable. The guy across the table isn't your therapist or your best buddy. Unless you want the guy to get the impression you're just looking for a one-night stand or a friendship with benefits.

But if you want to be kinkier, you could also bring him to the basement, garage or even outside if public play is your thing.

I talk more about public play later in this kinky ideas article here.

It’s what you do while he’s blindfolded that’s important.

With this in mind, here are a few kinky things you can do to your man while he’s blindfolded.

(I mentioned this in a post about first-date conversation stoppers, but it seems worth reiterating.) 6. As I've said before; this is a really hard thing to get right. And it can also be off-putting if you mention some dude you were casually dating, like a random hot fireman. And since it takes 30 minutes to digest food — while alcohol gets into your system ASAP — the bread your waiter brings won't help much.) Limit yourself to three drinks or, if you're a lightweight like me, ONE. Cocktails and fancy microbrews can vary greatly in their alcohol content.

So, rather than run the risk of coming off as insecure or self-loathing (not attractive qualities, FYI), avoid pointing out any of your shortcomings. He might get the impression you sleep around or you're trying to brag about how wildly attractive the male race finds you. Guys appreciate that a LOT even if they have no intentions of letting you help with the bill.

Ok, let’s jump in with my first kinky sex idea you can try with your man…“Blindfolds?

Well duh, Sean, that’s the most obvious kinky sex idea I’ve ever heard!

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