Every moment does not have to be perfect or perfectly scheduled.

Conversely, understand that the perfection of weekend getaways likely won't continue once a normal relationship is possible. And using some of these tools will stop "separation pressures" that might prevent you from getting there.

On the other hand, be careful about relying on e-mail to resolve conflicts.

Before Alexander Graham Bell ever was born, people kept in long-distant contact by writing words on a piece of paper, which they then placed into an envelope, affixed a postage stamp (in those days, you had to lick them), and then mailed through the post office.

These were called "letters." You can also send care packages and little gifts, or peruse the selection of sicky sweet cards at your local Hallmark store.

and I was sure he'd been hit by a bus and that's why he couldn't get to the phone. What had actually happened was that the nine-hour time difference got in the way. Remember this: missing a day (36 hours in my case) does not indicate relationshipial jeopardy.

He was in Israel and I was in the States and he somehow thought that calling at 3 a.m. If a phone call gets missed or an e-mail doesn't arrive, do not assume that your darling has run off with the cleaning lady or been hijacked. It's likely that one partner will need more communication more than the other. If you want more contact than your partner, try to be less demanding.

But you may be surprised how much a relationship can grow – if you work at it.

Late-night talks and thoughtful letters can convey a lot of what is most important in the long-term: your goals, values and dreams.A Stock Phrase used to describe someone who pines for/stays with someone they don't love (or who treats them poorly), because they don't want to be alone.The implication is that the character cares more about being in a romantic relationship with someone than the person they're having the relationship with.Since this attitude is exactly as unhealthy as it sounds, such a character invariably ends up Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places.They may be Allergic to Routine and have a hard time sticking around because they believe True Love Is Boring.However you do it, be conscious of the costs involved and try to apportion them in a fair manner.