I’m interested in dating women in their 30’s through early 40’s.

I like children, but I am sure that I don’t want to be a parent.

I know you don’t have a magic wand, so I just have to play the hand I’ve been dealt.

A Jewish rocker with dreadlocks who wants to be with a Jewish woman. You can probably add other things to this list, including overweight women, older women, short men, and poor men.

These are not choices, but they are groups that face longer odds because they don’t fit into many people’s preferences. The Jewish rocker could cut his hair to appeal to his demographic.

Otherwise, buddy, my advice to you is the same as my advice to anyone who restricts their own choices: open up or quit complaining how hard you’ve made it on yourself.

By the way, thanks for putting yourself on the line with this one – a lot of readers can identify with you.

I had never really considered NOT having kids before.

At first I was dismayed, but after some reflection told him we didn’t need to worry about that just yet and let’s just see how everything else goes.

Steve, I’m running your email, not only because you’re a regular commenter, but because it follows last week’s question so neatly.

Steve’s a perfect example of a kind, relationship-oriented guy, who is extremely conscientious about the potential damage of two partners having different long-term goals.

Act with integrity and his pool of dateable women diminishes considerably.