During the reception John and Jane became the primary focus of our guests.

John even went out of his way to ask the band for a special dance for just him and Jane on the dance floor.

Not only does it offend and sadden me that this box is so meaningful to him, but I’m terrified that I’ll accidentally uncover it at some point. A: My first question is why are you doing “everything in [your] power to make him comfortable,” including ending a friendship you presumably enjoyed?

Mallory Ortberg, aka Dear Prudence, is online weekly to chat live with readers. (Sign up below to get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week. Literal baggage: I’ve been dating a fantastic man whom I love for about a year.

We’re living together and everything has been ideal. After listening to a podcast together about a similar subject, he mentioned that he has a box of nude photos of various exes.

” After his family agreed with her, I changed the visitation and banned them.

He wanted it, and I don’t feel like they were being helpful.

As of now, he’s stable, and he has a very long way to any form of recovery. My husband and his family do not have a good relationship, and he recently told me he wanted to cut them off due to their abuse.

They have been absolutely horrible since the day of his accident.

Everyone but his mother is in the medical industry, and when they arrived they immediately tried to take over.

His dad (who is a doctor) told my husband’s doctors to only talk to him.

Amazingly, they complied so I was left in the dark for the first four days and was barely able to see him.

His dad also provided incorrect medical information that ultimately ended up hurting him. They have been speaking so ugly about him that a stranger in the waiting room asked me why I would allow them around him.

The naked-picture stash seems to me to be a bit of a red herring. For him to compare a box of nudes to his wedding album is, at the very least, an incredibly dumb analogy—there’s a pretty significant difference between photos of your wedding day, which has a significant social, emotional, financial, sexual, and physical impact on your life and history, and photos of the naked torsos of everyone you’ve ever slept with. Protecting my husband: My husband recently was in a life-changing accident.