I think the 13th Century Persian Poet Rumi sums up love so eloquently.

He wrote: 'Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.' The way I interpret this that when it comes to love, you can't give or receive love unless you love and respect yourself.

If you feel you are worthy of love, then you can fully love.

He told me that when a married couple fights, no one wins.

This advice has helped me realize that if I fight with my husband, getting in little digs doesn't matter, because it hurts us both.

It's the kind of advice you repeat to yourself during difficult moments, or find yourself re-telling your friends.

I wanted to hear more of these stories from other women, all sharing those key moments from their lives.

And yet the only thing that's changed is the relationship you have with yourself. In television and film, the primary conversations that woman have revolve around men, dating men or how to better date men. Millions to billions of dollars are spent on how to sell a costumer something they don't need to buy, or portray an image they don't necessarily want to subscribe to.

I have been wracking my brain about this idea of "Mr. One thing that has been on my mind lately is the way media, television and film portray women. Male characters' conversations are often about catching bad guys. When I was a young person and having a hard time dating, my mother would say, "You have to kiss a lot of frogs in order to find your Prince." I have come to a point in my life where I realize that she was right, but, as corny as it may sound, the Prince is me.

My mother, Ingrid Teichner, always said "to love is to be happy with.". That is my advice to myself in midlife, seeking love.

I always felt this to be a simple and beautiful phrase that removes crazy expectations from relationships and keeps perspective on love so simple. The litter box is the litmus test for love and compatibility. "I always thought that love was about desire -- being with someone, holding someone, feeling someone. Love can come in lots of different ways and lots of different guises." That's the British artist Tracey Emin in a May 2012 BBC interview.

Conversely, if he fails to call, hold your head high and walk away.