It must be that she has not found the "right" man to "keep" her straight.

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I stopped worrying about what anyone thought about my identity and who I loved and had sex with--especially my mother, who made it very clear she did not want me to be a lesbian.

It was very hard on me for a long time because I did not want to disappoint her and I know her inability to love this part of me affected my ability to come out earlier in life. I love being different and don't want to be like everyone else.

At an event earlier this year, I met two women who, as it turned out, were not only business partners but also life partners.

They left their marriages and grown children in their 50s and have been together ever since.

She just happens to be female instead of male." Dr.

Lauren Costine, Psychologist, LGBTQ Activist, and author of Lesbian Love Addiction: Understanding the Urge to Merge and How to Heal When Things Go Wrong, shares her journey: "Once I had worked on my internalized LGBTQ phobias, I finally felt good enough about myself to be my authentic self.

My curiosity piqued, I'm afraid I monopolized their time with my many questions. I DIDN'T "BECOME" GAY Most of the women I interviewed were adamant that they did not suddenly turn from straight to gay, but rather only awakened later in life to their attraction to women.

As someone who writes about midlife reinventions on my site, Next Act for Women, I am always on the lookout for women who have made major life changes, whether personal or professional, later in life. As luck would have it, soon after, I received an unsolicited request from Lisa Ekus, who fell in love with another woman at 51 and wanted to share her story. After hearing more about Lisa's background, and talking to my sister, Kat, who also came out late, I felt there was a lot we "straight" people needed to learn. They feel this attraction has always been there but had been previously inaccessible, for reasons individual to each situation.

Unfortunately, she never accepted my lesbian identity but I finally moved past needing her approval and started living my life. Life was way harder when I was trying to be straight.

Being an LGBTQ activist--trying to make the world a better place for LGBTQ folks--takes away any discomfort I may have being a sexual minority." 2.

I have come across many lesbians and gay men who say bisexuality is a cop-out and that I am just not owning who I am; well, I've accepted that for some there is a gray area and I wish they would too.