The Duggar Rules of Relationships also cover you start courting and how to keep an existing marriage healthy. Set Boundaries“Dating with a purposeful mind-set is really such a contrast from what we are used to seeing in our world,” the family matriarch, Michelle, told PEOPLE. You’re like two magnets being pulled together,” she added.

“We want to save the physical side of our relationship for our wedding day and not go further than we should.

If you are kissing, it gets more intimate.” “Obviously, you can kiss and not have sex,” Jill said.

But as the Josh Duggar sex scandals reminded us, all that glitters is not gold, and when the Duggars go astray, they do so in shocking fashion.

Earlier this month, reports of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar getting divorced began to circulate on social media.

“It was an interrogation,” Jill said of their five-hour Skype conversation.

“I didn’t want to not have the guts to ask the tough questions.” Rule 5.

Court, Don’t Date The Duggars don’t “date,” they “court,” according to Josh, 26, who married wife Anna in 2008. “A courtship is the path toward marriage.” For dad Jim Bob, “Courting is getting to know each other in a group setting, both families spending time together and the couple setting goals together to determine if they are meant to marry.

With dating, a couple will often pair off alone and that sometimes leads to a more physical relationship.” “We want to get acquainted with a young man in a normal family setting, where we’ll be watching how he treats our brothers and sisters,” the Duggars write in their new book.

“We want to see how he reacts to normal family events, such as Josie accidentally spilling her milk in his lap, Jackson unintentionally ruining his board game or Joseph trouncing him in a basketball match.” Rule 3.

Save the Physical Relationship for Marriage Jill, 23, who married Derick Dillard in June, was happy to reserve her first kiss for the altar.

Josh continued to molest his younger sisters before being sent off to a sort of faith-based rehabilitation center.