Overcoming the racial stereotypes and just being treated as a normal person is a big barrier. Chicks dig a guy with the ability to smuggle ET to safety. I call him Tim-Bob, because the first time we met, I thought his name was Tim, and the second time I thought his name was Robert. Anyway, Tim-Bob was halfway into his fourth drink and onto a familiar lamentation about his Japanese wife. Your wife can’t make more, since she’s a Japanese woman, but Oh, you sure can. Identical in every way – not exactly fountains of energy and interesting conversation, if you know what I mean.

English Teaching, one of the most popular jobs for foreigners coming to Japan, nets a salary of 250,000 yen per month (or 25,314 USD salary per year pre-tax income).

Definitely not enough for a family long term, and possibly not enough for a solid date.

Dependent on a girls age (younger girls care less), this could be a significant deterrent when it’s layered on top of other reasons in this list.

Foreigners get a bad rap of being labeled as “playboys.” It’s this label that also fuels the stereotype of foreign men having some mystical “game” when it comes to Japanese women.

I am fairly new to Okinawa and just looking for someone to hang out with with similar interests; but I am willing to try new things as well.

A great sense of humor and intelligent wit will always make me smile and if you're adventurous and willing to try new things then it sounds like it will be a great beginning to a new friendshi.. I am tall, athletic, attractive, confident white woman. Most men here are shorter, weaker, too intimidated and feel inferior.

As Japanese girls tend to live with their families well into their 20s, ensuring she doesn’t “offend” her parents may rate higher on her priority list than the cute gaijin sending her Line stickers.

Short term, yes, you can bask in the beautiful neon rays of love hotels, but long term, the best you can do is to minimize the other red flags in this article.

It’s not just conversation that makes this a turn off either. Very few couples are interracial, and of those that progress to marriage, the overwhelming majority are actually between a Japanese man and a foreign women (source).

If a foreigner guy’s language doesn’t progress with the relationship, he’ll have to rely on her progressively for understanding all sorts of issues: visas, taxes, healthcare, education, your haircut, ordering your food, her holding his hand to cross the street… Of Japanese women who get married, 1.3% marry a foreigner (source).

Charai, or the Japanese phrasing of such, is basically being called a “player.” While you can gently toss it aside (or defend yourself valiantly), chances are you already in the hole. Pointing to your condom stash when she mentions the “last train.” It can be simplified as bad manners, cultural ignorance, and poor social skills.