In general, you will need to carry the relationship up until the point that it is "official." When it has been established (or is otherwise clear) that the two of you are together, then you should start reducing your initiative and letting him take the reins.As I said, he will probably start to do this on his own anyway, so rather than forcing it, just be cognizant of the transition.The first thing to do when you find yourself attracted to a shy man is to question your feelings for him.

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If a girl doesn't approach or initiate contact with a shy man, nothing will happen.

This is true, but handling this situation isn't as simple as you might think...

That offense will reflect negatively on you and the relationship.

So be careful about how much (and which) initiative you take.

" If you answer these questions sincerely and still want to date him, you then face the problem of making it happen - or rather, making him make it happen. They fall outside of the predator-prey model for sexual interactions that is assumed in the "don't initiate contact" rule.

So it is acceptable for you to initiate with a shy guy. The problem with male shyness is that it wears off in specific situations.Unfortunately there is no easy way to discern his true intentions without putting yourself on the line over and over again, and seeing how he responds.This can be humiliating, frustrating, even infuriating, and it can ultimately still end in failure.Though he knows his own limitations (as prescribed by his shyness), he also knows what a typical man is "supposed to do." So he recognizes, too, when you are doing it for him.This will offend him if you flaunt it, or if it is evident due simply to the social magnitude of the task you've assumed (for example, if you take his hand and lead him through a crowd).Of course, he will question this over and over in his mind, wondering whether you were asking him to hang out just to be friends, or if you wanted something more.