And your mother chooses the one man in the universe who is married to her daughter?

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Your mom is always going to be the mom who dated your husband.

You’re framing it as “” but your husband did just as much stealing and breaking of trust.

Have you had a “Hey, this isn’t really working” conversation before now? Would you have described yourself as “happily married” before you saw them together? Whatever the answers are, taking your mom on a date to your favorite local moving her shit into your house (which is still your house…I think? I REPEAT: ALL IS NOT WELL.” It’s nice that you are thinking about the possibility of forgiveness for your husband (after you break them up somehow, of course), but my read on this situation is that there is no going back to any kind of happy equilibrium in these relationships.

) are not the stealthy moves of professional secret keepers, y’all. He’s always going to be the guy who dated your mom.

My mother is the one having long talks with my husband at night, or going to a nice restaurant with him or the theatre and I am at a grubby pub every night with my alcoholic lover.

I have started stalking them, sitting in the car down the street from our house, drinking vodka from the bottle, and watching them come out hand in hand to play tennis in the courts down the street or go out to dinner.

I went to the toilet and threw up and then I dragged my lover out of the pub and went straight to the off-licence where I bought a litre bottle of vodka and drank it at his house until I passed out.

I can’t help but feeling betrayed by my mother and my husband.

I have had a string of long-term affairs and short-term flings.

During the past 8 months I have basically been living with another man in a neighbouring town to the one I live in.

I can forgive my husband but I could never forgive her and I can’t tolerate the fact that they are together. The references to the lube and the “perfect body”…this can’t be real.