These interesting questions for girls and guys can help you ignite a lively conversation and woo a date.

) — so don’t judge them too harshly on what they tell you.

Instead, consider what matters to you in compatibility: do you care if their parents are separated?

” And some very misguided guys blunder into inappropriate dating questions.

I once got an opening message reading, “Do you like sex?

“By the end of the date, you want to be able to know if you connect with the person and whether or not you share similar lifestyles and values.

“Asking great questions on a date can give you a lot of insight about the person sitting across from you,” Sarah Patt, matchmaker and dating expert tells Bustle.

” or “What’s your favorite place in the whole world? When you meet someone online, you have to create a spark through that initial conversation. If you pile enough on, things really start to heat up.

To help you gather tinder to use on Tinder (or any dating site or app), we’ve come up with 18 brilliant questions to ask when online dating.

The point of a date is sure, to get to know someone, but to also have some fun. Abrell says a question like this one is funny but will also help you learn something about one another. Consider what magical strength they select: if they want to fly, they likely need to release stress or are curious, if they want to read minds, they may be more analytical.