They see my delight in swiping, an activity most of them find boring or even disheartening at this point, as refreshing.

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When it comes to it, racial preferences when online dating sometimes just mirror life in the real world.

Sarah K., 30, the San Francisco-based CEO and founder of the app Pro Day, knows a lot of potential matches don't view her the way they do her white counterparts.

The clip is a great summary of so much annoying racial asshattery. All of the above isn't to say that race-related comments upset every woman who deals with them. Monica K., 26, an Asian woman in Baltimore, Maryland, hasn't come across these situations when online dating.

But guys have approached her in person to say things like, "I've never had an Asian before." "It's like I'm a Pokemon card," says Monica.

My hope is that my friends let me play romantic roulette with their love lives because they think my job affords me some top-secret dating intel.

In reality, they probably just let me do it because of how much it fascinates me.

Of course, women of all races have to deal with BS online. But women of color lack that extra race-based privilege, which can cause some mind-bogglingly stupid reactions from people in the online dating world."As a plus-size black woman attempting to find a suitable mate or at least a date, the results can be pretty sad," Christian S., 30, a Dallas, Texas-based fitness blogger and the creator of The Plush Cyclist, tells SELF.

She's tried out Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Ok Cupid, and

What's more, she met her current boyfriend on her first ever Hinge date after going on "probably 100 Tinder dates," she says.