If I could invent a pill that would cure heartbreak, I would be a rich woman.

Some of my clients will even jokingly ask me for one in the weeks and months following a breakup.

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By now you might feel the impulse to shout at your computer screen “just give me the number of weeks it’s going to take!

” One week for every year of the relationship is one of the most common healing time prescriptions.

” Everyone is unique, which means it may take me a year to heal from a breakup. It depends on so many things: how long you were in the relationship, the reasons you broke up, how emotionally invested you were, and who made the decision to break up.

Even though we’re all different, we’re also human – which means we have many things in common!

I realize there’s never ONE reason to date, but if your main motive is to get married…then perhaps you’re dating out of desperation. We thrive when we’re in relationship with one another, when we love and feel loved in return. You may think you’ve healed from the breakup, but you may be ignoring your grief and loss.

But we can’t focus our lives on getting married and having kids. Here’s a love quote that I like: “Love is like war: easy to begin but very hard to stop.” – H. If you tend to jump into things too quickly, it may be too soon to look for love again.

Keep in mind something that I like to call the two thirds rule.

Typically, when emotionally healthy, we will not be into approximately two thirds of the guys we meet.

It may lead to feelings of urgency: if I wait too long, what if all the good ones are taken?

With these very real fears in mind, I’ll bet some of you may be thinking (if we’re really being honest), is it really so bad in the first place to get back out there right away? But fulfilling it is unfortunately not a numbers game like applying for jobs.

Still, free free to share your experience – you might find clarity and insight as you write!