We did of course point out to our concerned friends and family back home that Sharia Law is only in place in one small part of Indonesia in the Northern Aceh province.If the rainbow flag gets out of control in Aceh, you risk being convicted by the Sharia police to 10-150 lashes in public for being gay. The good news, Indonesia is in fact a secular country.

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And, as the world’s 4th most populous country with over 250 million, statistically, Indonesia has one of the largest LGBT communities on the planet. As with most countries in Southeast Asia, Indonesia has no laws to support the rights of its LGBT community and society remains largely conservative.

To make matters worse, the Law Against Pornography and Pornocation was passed in 2006, banning anything that publicly depicts sexual relations between persons of the same sex. No handing out the Nomadic Boys business cards too frequently in these parts then…!

Being out in the work place can negatively affect your career and employment opportunities, particularly government jobs. But for me, religion is about peace, doing good to others and acceptance of self. Whether I’m going to heaven or hell, let it be a secret between me and Him. I spent my childhood playing with mostly female friends and got bullied all the time for being a sissy/queer etc. Indonesian society is so sexually conservative anyway, that any form of open sexuality, regardless of your preference gets frowned on.

As long as you’re discreet, you shouldn’t have any problems.

Malaysian Cupid offers thousands of local members, girls and guys, and also claims to be the leading local dating website.

It’s in English, so there’s a lot of international singles joining who love Malaysian culture and want to connect with local people.

At the moment, Apollo Bar Due to violent threats, the anti-pornographic laws and lack of police protection, most LGBT events in Indonesia are cancelled last minute.

As a result they go underground and are advertised in a clandestine manner like last minute text messages and word of mouth via Grindr.

) a few friends of mine about the gay bars of Seminyak, like Bali Joe and Mixwell.

There are also gay bars in Jakarta, the capital city. It’s best to meet locals via apps like Grindr to find out where the latest hang outs are.

Unfortunately on the other hand, you have plenty of media outlets who make us seem like we’re perverts and have chosen this way of life.