When I date someone, touch and affection are very important to me and these barriers make that nearly impossible.

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Then in 2004, I found out I had a very rare birth defect in my spinal cord and that it would need to be removed.

The week before the surgery, I discovered that I was pregnant with my daughter.

But many able-bodied daters may not know how to approach someone with a disability or what to avoid when asking a disabled person out. We talked to five people with disabilities and asked them about dating ups and downs, tips for other daters with disabilities, and what able-bodied people can do differently in relationships.

Here’s what they said: Name: Ariella Barker, 35City: Charlotte, North Carolina Disability: Spinal Muscular Atrophy Job: Attorney, former law professor, Ms. How she approaches disability and dating: In my opinion, we all have a disability in some way.

Men who can't part from their mothers, men who cried like children at the drop of a hat, men who were one-minute men or selfish in bed, men who couldn't get a job, and grown men who still lived at home with their parents. On dating able-bodied men: The struggle is the sense of feeling inferior, particularly with regard to his family or friends.

Hearing others praise your boyfriend for being such a saint to date the crippled girl and constantly trying never to burden my boyfriend with anything, for fear he would think that I'm a burden.

Maybe it's not a disability that falls under the legal definition and maybe it's not visible.

But I have dated men who were weaker in character than I am physically.

I recently moved from Atlanta to the Bay Area and dating is going a lot better here.