This isn't meant to embarrass you, or put any sort of blame on your shoulders.

Rather, I want you to take responsibility for your own actions. What if, it was only within yourself that it could possibly change?

I'm answering the question with this assumption in mind, although, I'll cover the other possibility at the end of this post.

Therefore, to answer: what you've received is most likely spam.

If he has 500 spam in his mailbox, I would say half or more are from dating sites. I have known that in the past (during his bad behavior times, he has cruised Adult Friend Finder type of sites). My Dear Hubby can see my screen, and he knows that I do not go on even ONE dating site. It's enough to make you both be impressed with antivirus software vendors and want to light your laptop on fire and go offline. Only with an effective spam filter or any action by service providers will it reduce but even then its a constant never ending battle.

My latest concern is the amount of dating site spam he receives. I get Latino singles (and I am not hispanic), Russian brides (and I'm a female), Match.com, and people who supposedly "found my profile" and want to send me photos! Within minutes, shoot, even seconds, the email would come pouring in. Dating sites, porn, politics, selling toasters, wanting political discussion. Once your IP address is being squirted out onto the internet via email, someone is grabbing that information and using it. Once your email address is "passed on" or compromised , it continuously gets passed on and on and on etc (ie sold on).

It's possible, yet more likely that your cell number got thrown into some database somewhere (similar to emailed internet dating scams).

All a spammer has to do is buy those emails or cell phone numbers, and then blanket message them all the same thing. I strongly suggest focusing on a solution to this issue, instead of thinking about what your boyfriend did in the past.

If it becomes an ongoing issue, I'd likely call my local authorities to see what I could do on a more formal level.

The other possibility in your situation might be that your boyfriend left his own phone somewhere, and you grabbed it, saw the dating spam, and were confused as to where it came from.

In this case, that might include getting the number blocked, having a quick discussion with your partner to let him know what's happened (and showing him this blog post), and finding the positives in the situation - such as you finding the text before the kids did. I get spam of all kinds on my phone, even when I'm not signing up for random dating sites to review them.

I just block them, try to use fake numbers if I have to when signing up for things that "require" a number, and leave it at that.

If they had dating spam on their phone, would you assume they were using sex sites to meet someone?